Dating an hiv positive man
We at Bustle love giving you tips for how to tap into your sexual potential and troubleshoot when things aren’t going your way in the bedroom.
But what about finding solutions to those stressful sexual health situations that inevitably crop up when you’re getting down?
Emma Kaywin, a Brooklyn-based sexual health writer and activist, is here to calm your nerves and answer your questions. My partner of eight years and I just went to get tested together, and he came back positive for HIV and I came out negative.
I don’t want to leave him, but I don’t know how to help him or protect myself. We all should go in for regular sexually transmitted disease (STD) testing, and it can be nerve-wracking for many of us, but most people going in for a routine test don’t think they’re going to come away with a positive test result.
That’s because it depends on a number of factors, including how much of the virus is in the other person’s fluids and how it’s getting into your body (through what site).
The important thing to know is that while each time you have unprotected sex with someone who is HIV positive the likelihood you’ll become infected is pretty low (an estimated 0.08 percent if an infected penis goes into your vagina, an estimated 0.04 percent if your penis goes into an infected vagina, and an estimated 1.4 percent if an infected penis goes into your butt), those numbers are true every time you do that act.
The fluids through which HIV can be transmitted are blood, semen, precum (also called pre-seminal fluid), vaginal fluid, breast milk (only for mother-to-child transmission), and rectal fluids, also called anal mucous.
Notice fluids not on this list, including spit, sweat, and tears.It’s also important to take into account the amount of virus in the other person’s blood.