Dating a man that is going through a divorce
Such a divorce, therefore, is a spiritual failure and should prompt those involved to focus on the Lord and not on seeking to replace the one being divorced.The third situation in which dating during the divorce process might occur is that of a person who causes a divorce, i.e., the “guilty” party in a divorce.So when I write “Stop chasing 10’s, marry the 7’s,” and my good friend Lance writes this reply: Most hot girls are crazy, that’s for sure, but I wouldn’t advise anyone to date a 7.I say go for the 10 that’s awesome on the inside, too.
The first is the case of a spouse who has biblical grounds for divorce.
All of the biblical allowances for remarriage after a divorce relate to the “innocent” spouse in a divorce with biblical grounds.
There is no biblical allowance for remarriage for a spouse divorced for unbiblical reasons or for a spouse who caused a divorce, whether by adultery, abandonment, and/or other possible grounds.
Most people going through a divorce, even when it is not their fault and even when they have biblical reasons, are usually shattered by the circumstances and not in any frame of mind to be “dating.” People don’t usually make good decisions while “on the rebound.” For a still-hurting divorced person or someone in a painful divorce process to be dating is neither wise nor prudent.
The abandoned spouse may indeed be lonely, but making clear-headed, godly relationship decisions in such a situation is difficult, if not impossible.
Now, before we get into that in great detail, I want to state 3 important disclaimers: First, not every person who is a “10” is damaged goods. Third, people can be judged on things other than looks..“Rules” are rarely my opinions – more often, they are observations about how the world works. I observe this frustrating reality and point out why it happens and what, if anything, you can do to counteract it.